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Tami Lancut Leibovitz
Many of my readers and clients ask me, “Tami, How to “hit on” someone you are interested in, and not fail?” or “Tami, How can I approach someone I like without him being completely turned off right away?”
Today, I decided to use my etiquette wisdom towards guiding you to new beginnings, relationships and connections!
I believe for all those “pick up” and “hit on” missions, there’s one subject that ties it all together, this subject is presentation. Not only the way we present ourselves through fashion, look, style and the full package that is our appearance, but also, most importantly, the introduction stage, and more specifically - your name presentation.
Did you know the sound of our name is the sound us humans love the most? Since birth, all of us get used to the sound of our name and our brains accept it with warmth and positivity. Our name is also our brand, and in the age of social media platforms, it can be our business card, our communication channel and a powerful business tool.
The mystery days of a “tall, mysterious stranger” has passed. If you can’t find him or her on Facebook, you’ll probably get suspicious pretty quick!
Before Facebook, we used to use avatars, pictures and quotes as our display profile. Now, reality and virtual reality is blended more than ever and having no presence on-line seems like we have something to hide. Being anonymous and private is not celebrated feature nowadays!
As part of my latest book “The IBL Code”, the International business language, you can find a complete etiquette guide for leisure, travel, relationships and so much more. For more details and a copy of the book, visit my website or Amazon to inquire about my book, The IBL Code: International Business Language.
When we were kids, our parents told us not to talk to strangers. And guess what? Back in our mind we still listen to this mantra.
That leads me to the first and most important stage in “making a move” on someone you are interested in, Present yourself with your full name, before saying anything else!
The minute we provide our full name to the person in front of us, we beat the privacy obstacle and open a door for the other person to be intrigued. Being open about your name and who you are and then continue to mention whatever you noticed about the person, such as “Great speech”, “Beautiful smile” etc., will increase your chances of getting a positive and wonderful response, hopefully the person’s name and hey, if you’re lucky – also a phone number or a Facebook profile invite!
Present yourself with confidence and ease and let your name be heard. Good luck to all you brave hearts out there!
Let me make it clear – even though my video is telling the story of a man approaching a woman, those tips and guidelines fits all genders and of course, same gender couples as well. Etiquette rules never discriminate!
Enjoy my YOUTUBE presentation, part of many Etiquette videos and tutorials I share on my channel, feel free to visit and leave comments, would love to have you as my subscribers. More videos in English are in the making!